Episode Summary
A personal training client once asked me why I’d bother to enter a race I knew I couldn’t win. For him, competition was all about the scoreboard. For me, it’s about something much deeper.
In this episode of The Aging Well Firefighter, I share three powerful race-day stories that reveal why I keep showing up for races I won’t win: to connect with others through shared experiences, empathy, and sometimes shared suffering.
Whether you’re an “age grouper,” a first responder, or just someone navigating life’s challenges, the real finish line isn’t the one with the timing mat - it’s the one we cross together.
Make sure to read this episode’s companion article, “Run, Salt, Run!”
Key Topics Covered
Why racing isn’t always about the podium or the medal
The power of connection in endurance sports and emergency services
Story #1: Meeting Susan during a half marathon and the joy of “running in tribes”
Story #2: “Coopetition” in a triathlon — helping a fellow athlete with pickle juice, even if it meant he beat me
Story #3: My first 50-mile ultramarathon, the brutal heat, and the salty nickname that became a symbol of camaraderie
How empathy, humor, and shared struggle build collective resilience
The science of oxytocin and why social bonds reduce stress and improve performance
Memorable Quotes
“The real finish line, for me at least, is about connection — not just the competition.”
“People were meant to run in tribes…. We were meant to share experiences.”
“I could have finished faster, but I chose to stop and help. Seeing him succeed was a bigger win than any medal.”
“If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.”
Call to Action
Have you ever experienced a “coopetition” moment or found unexpected camaraderie in the middle of a challenge? I’d love to hear your story!
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